The other day I was talking to one of my very dear friends. Who’s from a distant country and is going to be a world renowned programmer and a part time stage comedian someday. We were laughing at his joke when he said:
A little knowledge is dangerous. With the exclamation: And I don’t know who said that.
Friends are there to listen to what you have to say, friends are there to see what you are going through. Friends are there to comfort you if you’re in trouble. If the scene in front of your eyes gets blurred, friends are there to analyze the situation for you, to help you understand what are you actually going through and what should be your step ahead. But friends can do only this much. It is you who has to take the step, it is you who has to cover your assigned journey and it’s you who has to spend this life till the end. And this is your choice how much control of your life you keep in your own hands and how much of it you trade with someone else for some unwanted, unnecessary pain.
Well they say if you have to grow, you have to get out of your comfort zone. They say it is only then you understand life when you have the courage to take initiatives, when you decide the destination you want arrive to, when you set your own aims, when you start living the moment, when you get spontaneous and when you experiment with the unknown. It is only then you learn what is this all about, it is only then you start living and it is then you start your journey towards your success.
We come across charming persons sharing the stories of their wonderful success and it seems as if everything was put automatically in order for them to arrive there and ring the bell. Hollywood makes us believe that a person is going to rise to the occasion in his single shot, the moment one sets his mind towards his destined goal, everything in this universe gets in harmony with his intentions, people can sense his determination and start offering their assistance and within a time span of hour and a half his life gets fixed. Every other person leaving the cinema hall, is as enthusiastic, as determined and as hopeful as the characters of the movie. I wonder why depression is overspreading then.
As a matter of fact, life’s not a movie nor is it a fictional novel. Magic doesn’t exist and people don’t assist. World is cruel and life’s not fair. If you decide to get something, you have to set the parameters for achieving it. You have to fail in a lot of plans before you find the plan that works for you. You have to suffer the pain in your path but you have to keep moving. You have to get out of your comfort shell, bear the disappointments, tolerate all the pain, accept the unfair nature of life, deal with the selfishness ahead and have that charming smile on your face. After you do all that, you have to keep telling yourself that you might not succeed even after doing all that. You have to analyze the mistakes, find out what you have done incorrect, get back there, fix it and start it from the very beginning.
This is a hideous process but often the pill that would heal you, is very bitter in taste.
Somewhere I read the most beautiful curve on a woman’s body is her smile. I strongly disagree with that. The most beautiful curve on any person’s body is the smile. Why women only? And they say life begins at the end of your comfort zone. Couldn’t agree more. Let’s begin then and be the type of person you want to meet.
The story starts with some aspirations and dreams that one sets for a lifetime. At times life seems too small for all the things to be accomplished, for all the journeys to adopt, for all the milestones to be achieved and for all the battles to be won. A person keeps on spending his days and nights in pursuit of a better tomorrow. Every time when you have a chance to enjoy a joyous moment, you sacrifice it because you’re indulge into something urgent.
When I was a kid, our class teacher told us a story about a man who wants to climb up the highest mountain when he sees up from the valley. He tells himself that he’d have nothing more to accomplish if he reaches the top of this mountain. When he gets there, he sees another mountain, higher than the previous and it feels that there is nothing more to accomplish after this one. On reaching the top of this higher mountain, he finds that there is a top even higher than this one and he sets his journey for that one and the process goes on.
Today after all these years, I find myself trying to reach the top of a mountain which is higher than the one I just reached out. It appears that I am not going to end this journey, rather this journey is going to consume me till the end. It appears that happiness is not about reaching your destined place, happiness is about enjoying the journey to reach there. Happiness doesn’t lie in perfection rather happiness lies in the process of making things perfect. Happiness doesn’t come to you when you stand with the people who are already happy, rather happiness is what you feel when you try to get someone out of sorrow to make him happy. Happiness is all about letting go what you couldn’t achieve and focus on what you can have.
You’ll feel happy the moment you defeat your regrets, start to admire your present, set yourself free of the conflict of capability and incapability, break the rules of a never ending competition and finally start living.